5 Things I'm Going to Stop Worrying About

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Given that I work from home, spend far too much time with just my dog,
and am finally brave enough to proudly consider myself a writer,
I spend a lot of time in my head. Maybe more so than others, I'm not sure,
(it's been awhile since I've hung out in someone else's head.)
This means I'm a thinker. I'm not claiming to be a profound thinker by any means,
it just means I think/analyze/wonder/dream/worry a lot.

But right now, I'm choosing to stop worrying about a few things.
Five to be exact.

1. The Future (easier said than done.)
Que sera sera, right?
At age twenty five I am constantly wondering what I'm going to do with my life,
where I'm going to go,
how I'm going to make it... And it's exhausting.
Sometimes I just need to let go and let it be.
Again, easier said than done, but I'm still gonna try.

2. Nail beds.
(Some of my worries are less serious than others.)
I have terrible cuticles and I just need to accept it. I don't necessarily bite my nails,
but I love to tear/pick/chew at everything that surrounds them.
It's disgusting.
But I've noticed I'm not alone in this struggle. Nail picking is peoples go-to activity.
I notice it everywhere. On the bus, in my class, at the store,
everyone is always going to town on their nail beds.
So rather than beating myself up about this nasty little habit I should just try to capitalize on it,
like maybe invent an app like Angry Birds only called Angry Nails.
I'll get back to you on this one.

3. Buying a house.
I wonder how people felt bad about this one prior to Facebook?
I'm really good about not comparing my life to others (except Emma Stone's)
but for whatever reason, this one really gets to me.
Every time I see a new photo of a house with a for sale sign in the yard and a happy couple,
my heart drops a little and I think oh shit, I'm behind.
But whatever, I am behind so be it.
Chris and I chose Chicago over a house. Might not make sense to most, but for us I think it's exactly where we're supposed to be.

4. Blogging.
I'm not going to stop blogging, I'm going to stop worrying about blogging.
Within these last few months of having some extra time on my hands,
I've really jumped into the blogosphere full on.
For the most part it's been great, but like anything it also has its downsides.
With too much time to think about blogging, I've done just that, thought way too much about it.
Rather than having this just as an outlet to write as I originally intended,
I became a little obsessed with all of the other facets of blogging.
Sponsorships, followers, giveaways, stats, blah blah blah.
But when you care about something so much I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing to become a bit obsessed with it, for me personally I just realized it started to suck the fun out of it.
So after March I'm trying to get back to the basics.
Back to the good old fashioned posts, less sponsor spots, less giveawsays, ext.
{However that being said if someone still offers to send me a really cool product to write about you bet your ass I'm gonna take them up on it.}
I'm only human.

5. Gym time.
As fun as it was to pretend I was a Fit Girl during their week of cheap classes,
I'm not.
I'm not a fit girl. I'm not a gym girl.
 I'm a take my dog on walks and just be active when I can kind of girl.
So as of now I'm going to stop worrying about the fact I don't work out, or belong to a gym,
and probably never will.
(Until they offer cheap classes again.)

And that's that.
What do you need to stop worrying about?

Chris's appendix wound decided to rebel today and turn itself into a ball full of poison so we've spent the last five hours in E.R. again.
It was fun.
Note to nurses, even if you're trying to be funny, never tell a patient
"you're gonna feel a lot more than that, we're gonna torture you."
It just wasn't the right time.

I need a vacation right now. Anyone else?



  1. I needed to read this! I stress about too many things & need to slow down to enjoy life.
    I hope your hunny gets better!! That sounds awful.

    1. I think we all do- winter makes it especially easy to forget to enjoy life!

  2. I've hit that blog funk so many times. Where it's just not fun anymore. Something you enjoy should not cause you stress, that's where writers block comes from. Take some time off girl!

  3. Until your obese I say there is no need to worry about working out lol You look amazing!

    1. haha well thanks, I really appreciate that compliment on a day like today!

  4. i'm with you on all of the above times 10. but i have a house so i'm better than you (IM KIDDING DON"T ATTACK ME EVERYONE) i also don't live in chicago where the prices are like triple in the dallas suburbs. my favorite one is the blogging one. i need t do that too. worrying only gives you wrikles
    sorry for my long comment.

    1. Damn you Helene with your fancy ass house!

  5. I also work from home and find myself obsessing about ridiculous things. I think that's why I got Invisalign last year- too many times walking by the mirror and smiling at myself pretending my reflection was a friendly co-worker! I thought, "My co-worker is super cute and friendly, but she should fix her grill!" One year and $3500 later, those teeth are straight. My co-worker/self looks much better. Wow, that sounds pathetic! And now it's out of my head and on the interwebs...

    1. Haha this might be the most random/hilarious comment ever. I'm sure you are your teeth look wonderful!

  6. i've decided this year to stop worrying about my blog. when i first started, i didn't care if anyone liked it or even read it for that matter...i just wrote to write and be creative. so i definitely feel ya on getting back to the basics. also, i try real hard to not worry about if people think i'm a dork cause i DO have a blog. there's so many people out there that still haven't accepted blogs..like its okay to share all kinds of stuff on your facebook but when it comes to a blog..you're lame for sharing stuff just because most of your readers don't know you. i gave up fb when i started my blog and it was definitely a good decision. i see lots more positive things and people in the blog world than i ever did on facebook.

    1. Yeah what's with that whole blogger stigma thing? I've noticed it more than ever lately!

  7. I'll see you your vacation and raise you a sunny beach, por favor! (I'm in Minnesota, so we share the same long, snowy, cold winter sob story. Although we both choose to live here, so I guess we like it most days. And I really do, but that doesn't mean I don't want to to sit on a beach for a bit. I mean, my vitamin D reserve is at an all time low. But I digress.) My short list is that I'm 16 weeks pregnant with my fourth bambino, my 6 year old broke her leg in a way that leaves her couch-bound. If she has to move, I have to carry her. If we have to leave the house, it requires a wheel chair. Then she got the stomach flu. She can't move, but she has the stomach flu. I'll leave you with that little mental picture. What I wouldn't give for a one day reprieve from the pregnant women can't drink rule. Heck, I'd settle for a 2 margarita reprieve. Even better if it's on the beach. OK, rant over. I love your list and I really hope that wound heals up and you don't have to go listen to any more bad nurse jokes. Clearly they don't take improv classes.

    1. Okay DeNae, you totally trump me with this! Hope your fam gets better! And get yourself a virgin marg at the very least!

  8. Great post. I mean, why the hell do we as humans worry so damn much?

    I mean, dogs don't worry about a thing.

    I wish I was a dog. Not a drag my ass along the carpet kind of dog. Just a dog.

    1. I'd even settle for the drag ass kind.

    2. HAHAHA love this comment and Taylor's reply! :-P made my day!

  9. These remind me a lot of new years resolutions but better! Good for you for taking some of the sh*t off your shoulders!

  10. I'll take that vacation you mention, like yesterday.
    I'm going to stop worrying about a clean house. I can't keep up and nobody really notices but me anyway so why do I care? Unless some one comes over unexpected, in which case I will hit the floor and act like no one is home!

    ps: boo you whore to Chris' appendix

  11. Such a good post :) thanks for sharing!

  12. Thank you for sharing ;) I too have dedicated more time to the blog, which has paid off, but I'm also bogged down by the keeping up part and I don't like that.
    Keep on doin'
    xoxo- Kaara

  13. I am right behind you in needing that vacation and that dream job...bleh!

  14. i have a love hate relationship with HGTV because of that whole house thing. How do people buy things with real money...where do they get the funds?! #helpmeimpoor

  15. I'm totally with you on the comparison one- I graduated from university a year later than some of my closest friends, and career-wise, I have to keep reminding myself that I am a year behind them. Just decided that I'm only going to worry about the things I can actually influence- like stopping biting my nails. (Also with you on the nail bed thing) x

  16. such a necessary reminder today!! nail beds and houses are both on my list as well. that and dry hair.

  17. OMG I feel like I was just reading my own thoughts. I also worry too much. I don't work from home but live alone and so am alone a lot. I watch a lot of TV or at least have it on regularly b/c it prevents me from thinking too much lol. I try to keep myself busy so I don't over think and worry about everything that is or isn't happening in my life. Thanks for sharing, I can totally relate.


  18. This is a great list! My list of things I need to stop worrying about is shockingly similar, this is a much needed reminder that I need to chill the f*ck out sometimes :) Thanks!



  19. I'm with you on needing a vacation. Somewhere warm please. I actually have a lot of the same worries as you. I need to stop worrying about things I cannot control.

    I hope Chris is feeling better soon!

  20. I love this post! I also need to stop worrying about gym time. Walking my dog and random monthly zumba should be enough! Good luck on the no worrying thing. Don't worry be happy

  21. I have a house.... smaller than most people's apartments. It was a good deal at a good time in a notsogood neighborhood and we thought eh? Haha. Life isn't a contest we all have to do things at our own speed!!!! Everybody is different I am almost 27 and just now starting next phase of school where I actually know what I want to do. All my friends are done with schools and have bachelors degrees and im over here like hey I went to a trade skool. Haha! Glad you're stopping the worrying!!! :)

    Your man needs to feel better ASAP!

  22. I for real got hardcore sucked into sponsor mumbo jumbo.
    I cut mine down a LOT! My mediums are not a social media spot, my larges get the option of a guest post/giveaway.
    That right there helped me SO much.
    It made me a lot less stressed about group giveaways and group shout out posts and people not getting me their info by the deadline and all that mess.

    As far as the rest of this-- my biggest stresser is by far the nail beds! Mine are horrible! It's so sad. (totally serious)

    But in general, this post hits close to home. There are so many things in life that we all stress about, that we all just need to step back and relax. Life is happening around us-stress or not.
    That makes sense in my head. Hopefully it does here too.

  23. We have many of the same worries! I totally get you on feeling "behind". I actually just wrote a post about it myself. For me, it's not only the homeowners but babies too. I swear every time someone announces they are pregnant I get a little jealous. Put a house on top of it?? Oh hell. lol I just wrote a post about how comparison is the thief of joy and I've really been trying to live it! And yes, sometimes I think (well, know) that Facebook doesn't help.

    Blogging. Definitely. I quit for a while because it became too much and I felt like I was missing out on life. There's definitely a balance! I just started again last month and I remember why I loved it... I'm just promising myself to keep the balance!

    I've been "meaning" to start working out since January. I mean, first my excuse was after Christmas, then I'll start in February, then I'll start the 30 Day Shred March 1... well, it's March 6 and I haven't worked out once!

    Ain't nobody got time fo dat!

    Life is short!

  24. Love this. I'm kind of a champion worrier myself and spend waaaay to much time thinking about things I can't control. I also agree about what you wrote about blogging. Writing quality posts and having less giveaways and sponsor stuff is the way to go. Besides the free stuff. No one has the willpower to turn that stuff away:)

  25. You go, girl!


  26. Learning to be content with the present is a lot harder than it looks. I still struggle with that shit everyday since everyone "expects" you to be at a certain point when you are 20 something. I think you are amazing for chasing your dreams :D

  27. great post! I think it's good to deal with the things I worry about in little doses like this. I'm 18 and I suffer from a lot of anxiety about my future--but I'm going to try to lighten up!

  28. This is awesome! I know there are a ton of things I really need to stop worrying about. It just gets in the way of living life, you know? And I think it's 100% okay to choose Chicago over buying a house. I would make the same choice. (Considering I grew up in the area, and I would do ANYTHING to live downtown or at least near it... I'm a bit partial though. I would also settle for NYC.)And I can relate to the blog worrying. I spend too much time worrying about how to make it grow and sponsorships and such that I forget to enjoy it sometimes.

  29. Great post! I know there's a ton of stuff I could/need to quit worrying about! It's going to age me too quickly & I just can't be having that! HA!

  30. I really needed to hear this today! I have been so involved with trying to expand my blog, and it has taken all the fun out for me. PS I hope his wound heals up!

  31. I really need to stop worrying about a lot of things as well! First and foremost being the future, too! I want to know every.single.thing that is going to happen in the next two, five, ten years. And I'm the same way with the gym. I have a gym at my apartment and I use it sometimes but it's hard to get to where I want to be in my gym routine and I feel like I'm being judged at the gym (does that make me sound bad??!?) As for blogging I go through phases where I love it and then suddenly it feels like a chore. I try to not let it stress me out.