What Happens A Month After Being Engaged

Tuesday, February 3, 2015


Chris and I have been engaged for one month now.

In regards to wedding planning, we've done nothing.  We plan to start planning. Any day now.

In the meantime, this is what I have done in the past month.

I've gotten more manis in the past 30 days than I have in my entire life. I have never ever been a manicure kind of girl (always seemed too frivolous), but now I suddenly feel like I have to have pretty nails that are presentable and easy on the eyes at all times. No more chewed on fingers for this girl. And when the nail salon ten feet from my house charges $12 how can I say no? So what if the nail technicians at Rose Nails all appear to be under the age 14, they're like family to me now. Like little sisters.

I've shown my finger to a lot of people. Well, technically they're looking at my ring. But it still feels just a little awkward to me when someone says "oh let me see it!" and I wiggle my fingers out in front of me like I'm a child showing off my rubies.

Last weekend I finally created a wedding board on Pinterest. It's called "Guess It's Probably Time." And right now 90% of the pins are about dog tuxedos and ways to involve your dog in your wedding. I know what you're thinking, only weird people actually have their dog at their ceremony. And you're right, I am weird and Harlow will most definitely be there. I won't have it any other way, mom.

Other than the dog stuff, I wasn't so much into the wedding ideas on Pinterest. It was just too much. Too many lighted trees and burlap napkins and seashell name cards. I'm hoping I'll come around sooner or later with a sudden burst of Pinterest wedding planning energy...

I still accidentally call Chris my boyfriend. And then when I catch myself and have to say "I mean my fiance" I can't help but giggle. But nine times out of ten I'm talking to Harlow and he doesn't seem to mind.

Likewise I giggle when Chris introduces me as his fiance. But he does too so it's okay.

I get excited to wear a pretty ring. Who knew this would happen? I've gotten so girly about something I never expected I would be. Please excuse the obnoxious photos on Instagram, I'm excited what can I say.

Perhaps due to our lack of planning, I've also started having wedding dreams. Nightmares, if you will. They typically involve me arriving late to the ceremony, without a dress, borrowing a dress from a stranger, sometimes I have to borrow from a homeless person, and then getting to a reception only to see that no one is there because we forgot to invite anyone. And there's never any cake.

Every once in a while I'll say to Chris, "hey we should try to do some wedding stuff this weekend" and he'll say "like what?" Then I respond, "I don't really know." And that usually ends the convo.

So one month into it, that's where we stand.

If you have better advice where to start or what to do... let me know.

Baby steps.

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34 comments:

  1. I just cannot get around the word "fiance". It still sounds so pretentious. Boyfriend for life.

    I've become one of those people who has a "how many days til the wedding" countdown but it's just an open tab on my Safari browser to the website "http://days.to/until/10-april" .. so it makes me feel less self-conscious and obsessed.

    I've given up on Pinterest. It's too overwhelming. Just keep checking groupon (ha) for good deals on things. I just ordered a photo-booth on Sunday despite myself.

    I wonder how I can get my cat involved in the wedding ..

    Don't worry, there's SO much to do. I only have .. wait let me check .. 65 days til my wedding and I'm still totally not ready. No pressure. No pressure. ... oh and the nightmares? Those don't stop.

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  2. This is why I was engaged for 2 years. Well, mainly this. I always said I'd get to the planning eventually. and you are allowed to get manicures at that price. I might even do it at that price.

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  3. Start with the Venue, then it all falls into place. And things will go wrong. The flowers were almost late because the street was shut down, a groomsmen was missing a vest and I walked into the wrong song and I was late to my own reception. But it was all perfect anyways. So don't sweat the small stuff.

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  4. I don't really remember how I found your blog, but I have been reading for awhile. I'm from Chicago so I can usually relate to most, okay all, of your posts. I also got engaged about a month ago now AND YES TO ALL OF THESE THINGS.

    Fiance is just weird. I am still in the process of finding a less... "fancy word"... as I like to call it.

    Oh the nightmares...I knew they would come eventually, but one month in?! Really?!

    Good luck planning! I already want go cry in a hole and we still have 15 months left.

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  5. Dat ring doeeee. So preeeetty.

    But seriously. Fiance is such a weird word. I still refer to my engaged roommate's fiance as her boyfriend because it's even more awkward to call someone a 'fiance' when they're not yours.

    Wedding planning will come with time! Can't wait to read more about it. XO Sam

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  6. You ring is beautiful!! Start with the venue! I got engaged Oct. 2013 and the only thing I did for 4 months was pick a venue and a dress. I left all the big decisions until about 3 months before the wedding. (My mom/bridesmaids loved me for it). But those are the biggest and the most fun!

    And being in love with the ring doesn't go away or at least it takes a long time because we've been married 3 months now and I still stare at it throughout the day.

    And fiancé always sounded weird to me.. I loved that I can say husband now because I always felt it was too fancy for us!

    Happy planning :)

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  7. LOL you guys could always elope. With Harlow of course ;) Good luck

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  8. My dog most definitely will be in my wedding, that is about all I know or care about when it comes to wedding planing.

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  9. I was engaged for five years. I feel you girl. Also when you do get married saying "husband" is so much better than saying boyfriend or fiance. <3
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  10. My entire engagement, I couldn't say fiance with a straight face. Husband has a much better ring to it! And, our dog was at our ceremony and reception (until she fell asleep in the middle of the raging dance floor) and she totally stole the show!

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  11. I'm having such a hard time with the fiance' thing too! I keep wanting to say boyfriend. Fiance' is such a strange word anyway. I did however immediately start planning but it helps that I'm doing something small. I just wanted to plan and get everything done so people would stop harassing me about dates and details! ha.

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  12. Just wanted to let you know, the Insta icon above your picture isn't working! At least it gave me an error on my computer!

    Love that ring so much! And I feel like I would be like you.. bask in the engagment for a while (long while) before stressing about planning.

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  13. hahaha I remember thinking fiance sounded so weird when I first got engaged. lol! And I giggled every time I said it for the next almost year until we got married. lol

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  14. Ellie Kemper referred to her fiance as her "goob." So, I think that's how you should refer to Chris. Definitely look into venues first...also, most venues will have lists of other vendors they work with on a regular basis, so that can be helpful because it at least gives you some options for your caterer, DJ,etc. You could also just go to an all inclusive in Cabo, but I'm guessing you've considered that and tossed it out, since they probably don't allow dogs.

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  15. You and me both now, sistah. Where to even begin? Planning DIY decor sounds good, right? Maybe doodling calligraphic fonts for the save-the-dates? Oh the choices...#thestruggleisreal

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  16. Dog tuxedos? It sounds like you've already done the most important part of the planning. What else is there?

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  17. I am SO glad pinterest wasn't around for my wedding, I think I would still be engaged if that was the case, so many options. I do however have a checklist I send to my friends who are newly engaged that helped me when I got engaged, I'll try to find your email and send it over. It's short, to the point and tells you what you need to do and when. I'm a checklist type of gal. It's a start at least, hehe. Your ring is gorgeous and I need $12 mani's near me! Jealous!

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  18. I was also having nightmares when I was engaged! Like I was crying at the altar because the band wouldn't arrive or something really irrelevant. It was funny that in all of those dreams my now-husband was just standing there to tell that everything was going to be okay. I guess we can call it true love then, ha!

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  19. I like the dog tuxedo ideas. and I can't imagine trying to plan with all the options of Pinterest. I would just hire out someone else to decide for me and call it a day.
    Texas Jak
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  20. Our dogs were totally in our wedding party. It's a must.

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  21. Harlow in a tuxedo sounds like the best wedding idea ever. I concur with what others have said, start with the venue! It totally helps in narrowing down your ideas and options! And they always have vendors they have worked with and can recommend.

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  22. yeah totally engaged for 2.5 years because i like to take things niiiiice and sloooow. who says you have to really do anything right away? i think you're right on track and i cannot wait to see what tuxedo you choose for harlow.

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  23. My advice it to totally enjoy being engaged! And if your really stuck, buy a wedding planner from a bookstore or buy a wedding magazine if your not ready for the planner book. That way you have something to start with. Good luck.

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  24. I'm not engaged, but I'm pretty sure I'd be thinking the exact same way if I were. The whole planning a wedding thing stresses me out just thinking about it and I'm not even under the pressure to set a date yet! I'd probably still refer to my boyfriend as "boyfriend" too, especially since we've been together so long.

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  25. You and Chris are hilarious! Take your time .. when you guys are ready to plan you will. Enjoy the ring and wiggling those manicured fingers in the mean time lol

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  26. My sister had her two basset hounds be the ring bearers at her wedding. I thought it would be totally stupid and ridiculous and told her many times, but it ended up being perfect and some of her best photos from the day are with her dogs!

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  27. Your ring is so gorgeous! Mad major props on the photo staging to! Unless your ring dish has always been so fab in which case I slightly hate you (kidding lol) I'm not engaged and the ole boy toy doesn't seem in too much of a hurry but I wouldn't know where to start either so at least if you show up late and havers borrow a homeless persons dress you know Harlows gonna be looking dapper ;)

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  28. The best part about this is that you are enjoying it - have fun!!! x

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  29. The nightmare part would be no cake! Gotta have cake! And no cupcakes! (Hate that!)

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  30. The day after we got engaged people asked when the date was. I'm like WE JUST GOT ENGAGED, RELAX. Great post- hits home!

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