13 Misconceptions About Brides-To-Be

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1. We’ll be deeply offended if you wear white to any wedding related event.

Please feel free to wear whatever the hell you want. Unless it’s a wedding gown, but honestly that would make for good conversation so if that’s your fancy, why not.

2. We all care A LOT about etiquette.

We do not. At least I don’t. I’ve heard that word more while being engaged than I would have ever imagined. I can’t seem to understand why I should care about some unwritten rule established by some random old person a hundred years ago. Dear Random Old Person, please stop insisting I do things a certain way simply because “it’s good etiquette.” At what point do we update this so called “wedding etiquette,” I wonder?


3. The wedding is our #1 priority in life.

Yes, planning a wedding is extremely time consuming. But many of us modern gals have several other things on our plate we are trying to manage, as well. This can include but certainly isn’t limited to: running a business, growing and protecting said business, spending quality time with our dog, writing a book, taking classes, preparing to buy a house, figuring out how to work snapchat correctly. Ext ext.


4. We were just dying to get him to propose!


A little piece of me dies every time someone finds out my fiance and I were dating for seven years before getting engaged and then I’m inevitably asked “how’d you get him to finally do it?” The person almost always says with a chuckle and elbow nudge and I visibly cringe and want to crawl in a hole. This is 2016, can’t we all accept the fact that sometimes an engagement is 100% mutual?


5. We can’t wait to get married so we can have children.

Nope, not the case with everyone. Before kids I have my eyes on a few more dogs… Also, isn’t it about time we stop pretending you need a marriage certificate to have a child? I understand this is the traditional way and it ties into most religious beliefs, but not everyone is traditional. And not everyone shares the same religious beliefs.

6. We’re going to take his last name.

I’m in no means offended by the “C T H” monogramed towels and photo frames I’ve been sent already, because it just so happens my dog’s name is Harlow. So really, it fits perfectly with our family. But my last name isn’t going anywhere. And no, I’m not trying to make some big important point by doing this. It’s simply my name and I like it and I don’t feel the need to let it go. So for now, I’m keeping it. Perhaps it could change in the future, but for now the Wolfe remains.

7. We’re all scary and OCD and obsessing over every little wedding detail.

I’ll admit I’ve had a few scary moments during wedding planning (I try to keep those private) but my main concern for the entire event is that I just want everyone to have a great time. Myself included.

8. The brides family does everything.

Nope, we’re living in a modern era people. Everyone is helping put this thing together. We opted out of a wedding planner, and instead we’re using two sets of parents, a MOH, and the help of friends and family to do plan this wedding weekend of ours. It’s an all hands on deck kind of thing. And I’m very appreciative for all of the help I’ve received.


9. All kitchen registry items are just for us!


I get so many comments regarding our registry and how it’s “clearly just for the bride,” wink wink, nudge nudge. My fiance picked out all of our pots, pans, flatware and plates. Why? Simply because he’s a great cook, and he just has better taste than I do to be honest.

Me on the other hand, I picked out the new stainless steel garbage bin because I like fancy garbage bins.

10. We’re all on a strict wedding diet which includes no alcohol and no fun.


True, I’m trying to work out more than average right now. But I’m not changing my entire lifestyle for one weekend (i.e. I’m not giving up the booze.) It’s a really fun time in my life at the moment, with weddings and parties and showers almost every weekend. So if I want a cocktail or three to enjoy myself, I’m going to have that cocktail.

Just to be clear (mom) I’m not saying I have to drink to have fun. I simply like to drink to *enhance* the fun. But on the contrary, if you’re that bride who is eating super healthy to be in the shape you want to be in, well then hells yeah for you! To each their own.

11. We can’t wait to be called a wifey.

This is probably just a personal thing, but I kinda hate that word. I also don’t like “wife up” or “hubs” or “hubby.” Married AF on the other hand, that I can handle.

12. We need to be in control over every. last. thing.


No. No, thank you. If there’s one thing I’ve learned about myself during wedding planning it’s that I hate having to answer 100 questions from people every day asking me about timelines, food choices, flowers, songs, menus, ext. Regardless of what my resume currently says, I am not detail oriented at all. All of the little decisions and delegating who does what, and what goes where, is just a little much for me. I need help doing the things. *see #8.

13. We’re all freaking the F out about “The Big Day.”


Okay yes, this is partially true. But I’d say it’s more like 20% freaking out, 80% excited AF.

Maybe it’s more 30/70. Because as everyone keeps reminding us, this is our “BIG DAY” after all.