The One Reason I Don't Want To Leave

Wednesday, November 18, 2015


As of 5 a.m. this morning I'm on a plane to Cabo for ten days to celebrate my brother's wedding.

I am so so excited. We've been going to Cabo for ten years now and it's my happy place. Throw in the fact 100 close friends and family will be there and it's going to be one helluva good time.

I've been looking forward to everything about this trip for months now.

Almost everything, I mean.


I hate leaving Harlow. I dread it. I even looked into bringing him. My mom said no. So did customs.

I know, I'm crazy. Trust me, I KNOW. But simply identifying the problem doesn't make it go away.

People say, "if you can't leave your dog, you'll never be able to leave your (future) kids."

No, that's not true. Because #1. kids are way more annoying than dogs (KIDDING! Can't wait to spend 10 days with you, Knox and Lola!) It's mostly because #2. You can say, hey kid I'll be back in a week. And they'll probably cry for a second, but they understand. They know you're coming back. And they know you're going to bring them a toy so it's all good.

But dogs? I don't know if Harlow knows I'm coming back and that's what kills me.

I've told him 100 times this week that I'm just going on a little vacation and I'll be back in no time. But then he just looks at me with that big dumb Harlow look and starts begging for another treat. So I'm not sure if it's registering. God bless him, but he's not the brightest Vizsla. If you follow his snaps @thedailytay you know what I'm talking about.

Of course I'll have a blast in Cabo every day that I'm there, but the nights... it's the nights that always get me.

When I get into bed and I miss having those 80 pounds of dog across my legs. Or on my side. Or sharing my pillow while his paw is draped across me. Harlow is a great snuggler. I would probably be very embarrassed if any other people actually witnessed our snuggle sessions.

And it's at night when my mind starts to wonder. What is Harlow doing right now? Sleeping. Does he miss me? Probably not. Does he wonder where I am? Not as much as he wonders where the squirrel who was in the tree earlier today is.

One of my good friend's is coming to stay with Harlow while we're gone so I know he's in good hands. He'll have his own house, full of his own scents, and great new pal to hang out with for ten days. I know he'll have a blast with Megan.

But damn it, I'm going to miss him. Is anyone else weird about leaving their dog? Furthermore, has anyone brought a dog on their honeymoon? Kidding! Unless you have, please give me all the details.

*On another note, I was going to be prepared and schedule posts while I'm gone. But then I remembered I'm never prepared and I'm not a scheduler. So instead I'm going to attempt a live travel journal/blog. Check back tomorrow to see what I'm talking about. **There is a good chance I won't follow through. 

Okay see ya! I'm off to Cabo to watch for whales and pet some seals.

I'll be posting a bunch of "look at me I'm on a beach and I'm being a total asshole about it" pics on Instagram for the next week so you might want to unfollow for awhile. Just a warning.


36 comments:

  1. Dude i get the same way with my dogs. I feel like a piece of me is missing whenever I even go out for the night without my babies. It sucks, but leaving is the hardest part. then once you're having fun it's not so bad. and that's when the countdown begins to coming home. the thing i'm always most excited about is the whole way home im like OMG I cant wait to see the babies!
    XO Ellen from Ask Away
    www.askawayblog.com

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  2. I left for LA today and I had more trouble saying goodbye to my cat than my boyfriend because like you said, my boyfriend knows I'll be home Saturday! Have fun in Cabo though, honestly that trip sounds like a BLAST!

    Laura
    Laura Aime Vous

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  3. I didn't want to leave for my honeymoon because the entire week of the wedding I stayed with my Mom and hadn't seen my dog in days... I was heartbroken. You are not alone in this one, if I could take them every where with me I would in a heart beat!

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  4. I get the exact same way :( I've considered canceling vacations before because I don't want to leave my fluff babies. Fortunately we have a wonderful dog sitter who lives across the street and is willing to stay with them when I need her. She also (I think) doesn't judge me when I demand hourly updates and photos.

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  5. Here's another thing to look forward to. When you have kids you leave them home with your dog when you go no vacation. Win, win!

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  6. Um...we did bring our dogs on our honeymoon. But we went to a bed and breakfast cabin in southern Illinois and just went hiking for a long weekend. Nothing too exotic.

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  7. I am the same way. I have three inside dogs (Labrador Retrievers). We only leave them about once a year; but when we do, they stay at the vet (kennel). Even though they are cared for very well, I know that they are missing the couch, the peanut butter kongs, and all of the treats and love that are given to them every day all day. They are super spoiled, but I wouldn't have it any other way!

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  8. I went to Ethiopia for 10 days and was more concerned with leaving Brody than anything else: ebola, how can a plane fly for 13 hours straight?, weird food, parasites in my stomach, flying over Sudan...Nope - none of those compared to leaving Brody. I get it. And I feel less crazy knowing someone else out there completely understands.

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  9. I was the same way with our dogs and now I'm the same way with my son!

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  10. i literally sometimes would rather not go on vacation than leave Baxter...glad i'm not alone in this

    the daily photo updates are usually enough to get me through the STRUGGLE that is vacation, like #blessed

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  11. We are the exact same way! Even when we go out to dinner, we'll say "let's not stay too long, we need to get back to Millie," and "what do you think she's doing right now?" I feel bad leaving for work now--she's been extra loving and protective lately since I started my third trimester, and when I'm getting ready to leave in the morning she just follows me around with sad eyes. I can't take it. Also, my SIL keeps talking about how we'll just forgot to feed and walk the dog when our baby is born. My husband and I refuse to believe that, and every day we tel her she's going to be the best big sister ever!

    ALSO, before I forget, I actually did see a friend on Facebook take their dog on their honeymoon--but they didn't fly to another country, they did a road trip up to Cape Cod/Nantucket. So it's possible if you aren't taking the tropical/flying route!

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  12. it is so hard. I am currently sitting on the floor with a dog on either side. just think of all the pics harlow gets to see when you get back...

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  13. Oh my gosh, I can totally relate to this. That's the hardest part for me when I have to leave Leia - I worry that she thinks we're never coming back. I mean, she acts as if she thinks that when I take the garbage out and return 30 seconds later, so I can only imagine what she thinks when we leave for a week or more at a time. We went on a two week honeymoon after our wedding earlier this year and we basically spent half the trip talking about Leia, wondering what she was doing, how she was doing, whether she was just staring out the window looking for us.

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  14. I'm the worst at leaving my dog. I get all anxious about it even though I have a best friend who lives 2 blocks away and she's a vet tech so she clearly knows what she's doing. I still can't help but be paranoid - what if he runs away while he's with her, what if he gets hurt, what if he's scared. I'm ridiculous. I make her send me videos and pictures every day I'm away.

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  15. I hate hate hate leaving Kobi! When we moved overseas from Texas to Manila (and then from Manila to Amsterdam) my ONE condition was that the dog came otherwise we weren't going to be moving. Haha.

    Have a fabulous time in Cabo and make your friend send pictures and videos of Har every day ;)

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  16. Leaving our furry kids is the worst!! I'm goin out of town this weekend-to Chicago actually!-and I just can't think about it too much or I get depressed. It just sucks. Why aren't they allowed to everywhere too?

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  17. Oh also I know someone who took her dog to Costa Rica with her. Not a honeymoon but still! Cool right?

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  18. Yeah, that's the hard part. They have no idea if you're coming back. When I got back from spending a month in Honduras, my roommate told me that her dog would just sit outside my bedroom door every day waiting for me.

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  19. I am totally this way about our pup. We've left her overnight twice in her little six month life and both times I was a wreck and kept checking in on her the whole time and begging my in laws for picture updates!

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  20. That's always the worst part about vacation, is leaving a fur baby behind! I tell my husband the same thing all the time, that he doesn't understand why we're leaving and he doesn't know if we'll be back. My husband always rolls his eyes at me when I say that, but I feel like it's always true! The good news is that you'll have fun and be back before you know it, and Harlow is at home and will be super happy in a familiar place!

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  21. I was gone for one day and found myself telling Piper last night that "I would never ever leave you and not come back, OK, Piggy?" I hurts my heart too, because her last family DID to that to her. UGHH

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  22. PS I just realized you said Harlow is 80 pounds... holy moly! He looks so much smaller than that! Our Rottweiler is 80 pounds! Tell Harlow he hides it well! ;)

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  23. My dog has been going to her sitter for 7 years so I love knowing I am leaving her in good hands. And then a few months ago I made the mistake of looking back at the house after I dropped her off. She had her chin resting in the window, staring at me. IT WAS THE WORST.

    I think I've annoyed every boyfriend because on vacation I ask approximately 75 times a day "what do you think Scarlette is doing right now? Do you think she misses me? I hope she doesn't miss me too much because then I feel bad..."

    I'm a crazy dog lady and have no shame. That's my baby!!

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  24. I hate leaving my dog, even just to go to work for the day! I definitely miss her the most any time I'm away on a trip.

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  25. Totally bought a new camper, so we could take it on our vacations to the mountains, and our pups could come along.. instead of them being taken to the "Hoofs-gow" So glad Harlow has a friend to come and stay with him, instead of being incarcerated. Maybe you should buy a camper for your honeymoon, that way he can come too!! :) I have also contemplated getting a cam so I can watch our dogs on my phone when I'm at work.. although it would be boring watching them sleep.. but stilll........... See!! You aren't the only one that is a little nutso about your dog-- we are right there with ya!!

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  26. Leaving my dog is by far one of my least favorite activities. The first time I left her at a kennel (the American Boarding Kennel in Minneapolis is FABULOUS) I cried a little, spent way too much time at Target, and got there early to pick her up...as in the place wasn't even open and half of the dogs weren't even awake...

    Dogs are just better than humans most of the time and its completely acceptable to be obsessed with them.

    xoxo,
    Kae
    www.kndoubleu.com

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  27. I get it, if you knew he understood it would be easier but you don't so it is so bloody hard, he will be glad to see you when you return and you to see him

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  28. We are leaving (to Chicago actually lol) for 2 nights in December, and my Moms going to watch our dog, but I am already being a freak about it. We're going to stay with her the night before so we can get him used to her place (which he already is lol) and same as you said, explain to him that he's just going to have a long sleepover and we will be back before he knows it. The nights are so hard. Whenever I'm away, I usually watch every single video of him on my phone before I go to bed haha. I agree though totally about the kid part, they understand English! It's different!

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  29. I am that person that takes their dog literally everywhere with them. EVERYWHERE. Jake is a 140 pound Rhodesian Rodgeback and he attached to me (I'm attached to him). I took him on a 14 hour road trip with me. We got out and ran a little every 2 hours... But still. It's pathetic. I'm way more attached to him than he is to me. My family and friends joke (read-are extremely worried) that I will never find a husband because I don't think anyone is as awesome as Jake. He's the best thing ever and when (if) I have a honeymoon he will be coming. Dogs are the best ever. I'm sure Harlow will have fun with his new friend... But taking him to Cabo would be sooo fun!

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  30. OMG, the only time we have left our dogs longer than an overnight was our honeymoon. TEN. DAYS. It was so friggin' rough (ruff?!) Anyways, I get it. I would literally rather be home with my dog over anything. And I do think it's different with kids. You can interact and entertain them whereas only you really "get" your dog and they look forward to seeing you and only you every day. Good luck, my dear.

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  31. Your trip already looks amazing, I hope you are having a blast!

    xx Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

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  32. Um, yes. I haven't been home (to my parents' house) in a year - it was last Christmas. My puppy Angus is technically their dog, but I love him so much I cry often. What breaks my heart the most is that he might not even remember me at this point, it's been so long. The last time I was home, I had only been gone a few months since my last visit, and as soon as he heard my voice, he came running. I'm hoping to go home for Christmas this year. I'm praying he remembers. xx Have a great trip! Can't wait to see your impromptu travel posts x

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  33. Leaving my pup is THE WORST. Even for short trips. I think I might need to get her that "emotional support dog" certificate + vest so she can tag along!

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